Overcoming Fear Inside You Once And For All
Think and Grow Rich by Dr Napoleon Hill. A book about overcoming fear and how to reach your dream; which sold over 100 millions copies worldwide and had once achieve number 1 worldwide bestseller.
Now, it has been included in my top 50 favorite books of all time written by a great man who has a nicknamed the King Maker of Millionaires.
More importantly, this book had change my life forever. Why? Because after reading it, it made me think like I can achieve anything that I wanted to do in my life and Dr. Napoleon made it very clear that the first step would be to believe that you can do it.
That is why I always keep this book near my work desk. So every time I felt less motivated or frustrated, I would read this book again (chapter 3) to remind me that I can do it. Moreover, I learned that there are three things that holding people back from reaching their dreams and it would be indecision, doubt and fear.
But, today it is only about overcoming fear which is my biggest problem that I had to face when I am fighting for my dreams. And I believe that most of you guys probably having trouble with overcoming fear too. There is no way that I am fighting this problem alone.
Therefore I felt the need to share my experiences and what I learned from overcoming fear inside me.
Read on my friends.
How Does Fear Rules Your Dream?
Thank you for asking and it is so simple actually. It all started when you are first having doubt with yourself. Then, it will lead you to hesitation and finally you would be paralyze by the fear. This is how they work; as simple as that.
And because of this three, you would become afraid to try and fight for your dreams. Truthfully, I had been facing this a lot at first. But now, I couldn’t care less about overcoming this kind of fear. I just do it whenever and whatever I wanted to do especially when it is about achieving my dreams.
How To Overcome Your Fear?
Simple but not easy. The first step would be to acknowledge it because they could be well hidden inside your habits or in your mindset.
For example, take one thing that you had always wanted to do but never had done it before because you are too afraid to do it.Then, ask yourself, what is the worst thing that could happen? and write it down.
After write it down, maybe you can get two or three worst thing that could happen to you. But let me tell me something: fear is nothing more than a state of minds. Most of them is not true at all and is not happening.
Don’t be afraid when overcoming fear because this happens to me too and most of the time it is the worst time that could happen to me is not happening. Because most of the time, it is just me just selling myself short and overthinking. Then, I would lead me paralyzed by my own mindset.
“Don’t be afraid of your fears. They’re not there to scare you. They’re there to let you know that something is worth it.”
― C. JoyBell C.
How Many Type of Fear?
Note to readers: There are still a lot of type of fear written by Dr Napoleon Hill inside Think and Grow Rich but I only took out the one that I am facing now. So if you want to know more, you have to read the book yourself.
1. Fear of Poverty.
The one that everybody would try to avoid the most. Because no one wants to get poor right? That is why most people keeps on playing safe by taking the 9 to 5 jobs as it is more safe than fighting for your dreams; for example, starting up your own business.
Although having a 9 top 5 jobs are no more safe than starting up your own business. Because you can get layoffs anytime and you cannot do anything to stop it. How’s that for safe and secure? Not likely.
For me, I think most of the guys who took the 9 to 5 jobs are just afraid to face the hardship of starting up your own business. Yes, I get it. I am having a lot of hardship starting up my own business too. But, it will gets easy overtime because you will grow.
Another thing, if you want it so badly, nothing should stop you from getting it.
2. Fear of Criticism.
I get this fear a lot. Let me tell you my experienced with it. When I just started to write at my blog; Malaya Journal, I am too afraid to put the blog’s link at any of social media’s bio such as Instagram, LinkdIn and Twitter. Why? Because I am too afraid that my friends and family would comment or critics about my writing. This scares me to death eventhougt it does not kill me at all.
If you are a normal readers, then you would know that I am an engineering graduates. So why the hell did an engineering graduates have anything to do with writing a blog? The answer would be nothing! And this kind of thinking paralyze me.
I kept asking myself; What if my friends critics my writings? What if my grammar is wrong? What if I am not good enough? and the best of all, What if I fail?. But after reading Think and Grow Rich, f*ck the the criticism and i just going to put my blog’s link at my bio.
Whatever happen will happen. I dont care anymore. At least I can learn from the criticism.
3. Fear of Missing Out (FoMO).
Starting up my own business is not an easy thing to do. It takes a lot of time and efforts but I am pretty sure you that all of you know about this.
And because of this, I have to sacrifice my time for my friends. Why? because my I need to prepare a lot of things when starting up my own business.
As i was saying in the last point, I am an engineering graduates. Frankly, I do not know anything about business. Hence, I need to read a lot of books whether about marketing, business and entrepreneurship. I also took an online course at Udemy.
This took a lot of my time and I had to sacrifice my time with my friends.
At first, sometimes I was thinking maybe I should stop doing what I do and go have fun with them. But then, I remembered. My path and their path is not the same. I am starting my own business while they got a 9 to 5 jobs.
Therefore, I cannot live like they live they life. It would be a disaster if i try too.
Maybe after my business already have their own business system only then I can join them. For now, It time to work on my dreams. This is the sacrifice that I had to make.
4. Fear of death.
For your information, I don’t experience this fear but I heard this about this fear a lot. Most of them are by the elders.
For example, they would say “I am in the fourties now” , ” It’s already too late”, “I am too old for starting my own business ” and something like that.
Let me ask you a question, What do these sentence have One thing in common?
The answer would be all the sentences is full of negativity and selling themselves short. Meaning that, they don’t believe that they can do it and of course they can’t. But what if they suddenly believe they can do it?
Then, they would become like Colonel Sanders who sold KFC franchise in his early eighthies and like Sam Walton who open his first WalMart Shop when he was 44 years old. All of this happen because they believe they can.
The trick is simple, if you want to achieve your dreams so bad, the age is just a number.
The Danger of Not Overcoming Fear.
- Fear kills initiative and this is the reason why people procrastinate a lot when they were afraid.
- It will destroy your imagination and kills your dreams and ambition.
- It will kills your self reliance.
- Wipes out enthusiasm.
- Makes self control impossible.
- It leads to uncertainty of purpose because you keep on playing safe. So anything that is worth fighting for when you know it is not going to be easy. You would tend to let it go.
- Finally, it leads to misery and happiness.
“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: The fear of failure.”
― Paulo Coelho,
1. 25 success principle: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be by Jack Canfield.
2. Feel the Fear . . . and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers.
Fear is a state of mind only. We cannot control what happen in life but we can control what we think and how we think. So focus on controlling it. Bottom line is to change the way of our thinking and our mindset from negative to positive one.
Whatever you do, always think that it is possible to achieve your dreams. No matter how hard it is, how bad it gets, you are going to make it.
“Do one thing every day that scares you.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt